How To Get Out Of Stagnancy In Your Relationship
Comfort is one thing. Stagnation is another. Here's what to do when you start to feel more like space-sharers than significant others.
When you were dating, you probably wouldn’t think of slumping around in an old t-shirt and cargo shorts around your now-wife. Your life, you professed, would be nothing but excitement and adventure and you wouldn’t ever, ever turn into one of those couples that acted more like space-sharers than happily married significant others. But, as a famed chaos theorist once said, life, uhh, finds a way.
The roommate phase of any relationship is very real. Life gets busy and, many couples, caught in the rhythms of it, become passive participants in their marriage. This happens in particular when the relationship doesn’t feel new and exciting anymore. This is normal and simply requires the people in said relationships to make changes to snap out of it. When stagnancy becomes a permanent state is when issues occur. This could indicate the spark has completely gone out and the two of you are simply occupying the same space. In other words, the roommate phase is harmless until it’s not.
So, when you and your partner are stuck in the roommate phase, what can you do? Take immediate action and find ways to infuse some freshness back into your marriage. First order of business: Change out of those sweats. Second order? Take a look at this advice on how to get out of a roommate phase in marriage.
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