8 Sex Tips For Grown Men

Because we could all use a refresher every now and then.

A great sexual relationship is hinged upon being a great partner. That means communicating, contributing, validating, appreciating, and all the good stuff that builds connection, trust, and intimacy.

Find comfort within your own body. The more you learn to appreciate yourself and the more confidence you have, the more comfortable and confident your partner will likely feel too.

If you’re not talking about sex, you’re likely not all that good at it. In a healthy relationship, conversations about sex should be a regular occurrence. This means having open and honest discussions about desires, intimacy, frequency, likes, dislikes, and more.

More importantly, if you’re in a heterosexual relationship, rid yourself of the notion that foreplay is merely a warm-up act and must lead to sex. It’s simply another version of sexual play. Besides, many women are more likely to get off from non-penetrative sex.

Orgasms are great and all, but they’re not the end-all, be-all of sex. Sex is about the journey, not the destination; tunnel vision will obscure the experience.

Meaning that, per research, women in heterosexual relationships tend to achieve regular orgasms far less than their male partners. Many factors apply, but if you’re in a heterosexual relationship, this is an important reminder to focus on her pleasure more (remember what we said about foreplay?)

No, this doesn’t mean you’re boring — it means you’re busy. And busy people need to carve out time for intimacy to stay satisfied.

Eat right. Exercise. And find ways to keep your mental health in a good place. If you can’t be there for yourself, you won’t be there for your partner.